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Ep 88. Being Mentally Fit with Shona Vertue


This week I speak to personal trainer and yoga teacher Shona Vertue.



We discuss:



* Her experience of therapy and SAD * Attachment theory and why there's nothing to be ashamed of if you are needy or codependent in relationships  * The pressures and boundaries of social media  * And of course, ask her the question – how are you really? 







Transcript



Mentally fit with Shona Vertue



Chloe Brotheridge: Hello and welcome to the ‘Calmer
You’ podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I am a coach, a
hypnotherapist and I'm the author of the ‘Anxiety Solution’ and ‘Brave New Girl’.
Thank you so much for listening today. I have an amazing guest this week Shona Vertue.
Shona is known for being a fitness instructor and yoga teacher. But for some
reason, this conversation isn't actually that much about fitness. We get into
such a varied number of topics. She has had her career so far in the fitness
industry, but she is now studying psychology and so this is a real passion of
hers.



So, we get into topics like her experience of therapy, why it's totally
okay to have therapy and we talk about things like how to find a therapist. We
talk about something called ‘Attachment Theory’ and you might have heard this
before. Some of us might be anxiously attached for example and it has to do
with things that happened in our childhood. We really get into why there's
nothing to be ashamed about if you're somebody that is perhaps needy or
codependent in relationships because it's not your fault and it can often go
back to these things in childhood. So, we chat about that.



We get into the pressures and boundaries of social media and I also ask her my favorite question to ask people which is. How are you really? I love Shona’s answer this, she's really honest and open and talks about something that I think a lot of us can relate to particularly at this time of year. So, I think gonna love this episode. I felt like I was chatting to an old friend where I met show know even though we just met ten minutes before.



Confidence Challenge



Also, I want to let you know that my confidence challenge is coming up on the 24th of February 2020. You can sign up at Calmeryou.com/confidence.



It's going to be 5 days of community, fun challenges, helping you to
think differently and take some action. So, that you can take a few steps
towards living the life that you want to live, being the person that you want
to be, accepting and loving yourself more, building your own self as and just
feeling better about being you overall. Last time I ran, it was really really
amazing to see how people made profound changes over just five days and made
new friends and expanded their idea of what's possible for them. So, I'd love
for you to join us as well. You need to sign up and register to get all the
downloads and workbooks and access the community. You can do that on my website
calmeryou.com/confidence.



So, let's get into the episode, with Shona. Welcome Shona, thank you so
much for joining me. How are you?



Shona Vertue: I am good. Thank you for
having me.



Chloe Brotheridge: I would love to know a bit
about, what it is that you do people that don't know.



Shona Vertue: Okay.



Chloe Brotheridge: And how you got to where you
are today? Can you share a bit about that?


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