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[TSE 81] How To Stop the Comparison Game and Choose Yourself

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I think Sinead O'Connor said it best in her song `Nothing compares to you'. And it's true. It really doesn't.

Your aim in life should be to be the very best version of yourself. So why do we all consistently compare ourselves against others?

Why do we look at people who are 3, 5 or even 10 years ahead of us in business and in life and get completely dejected that 'we're not there yet' or that we pale in comparison.

That's like comparing yourself with Richard Branson and his current empire worth billions instead of the Richard Branson in college trying to make a magazine come to life and getting loans from his Mum.

You will always come up ridiculously short.

And that's just a game for losers to play, and you're a winner, so I suggest you stop that now.

You can't even begin to know what's behind their journey, what it took for them to get to where they are now. But you can learn from them, and emulate the great things they do, so long as you don't try to measure up against them.

Nothing compares to you. You just focus on being your best self.

It doesn't help that we're constantly bombarded with 'overnight success' stories and internet millionaires making money in their sleep.

I know it can seem like everybody is doing better at everything than you. But they're not.

In fact often it's far from the truth, they're just good at marketing or spinning out the right stuff.

I'd like you to stop this destructive habit and instead concentrate on where you're at and what you've achieved.

Here is what you will learn in this podcast:
  • What the comparison hangover is (Marie Forleo's definition) and how to stop it
  • Why you don't want to fit in but instead stand out
  • How to stop comparing yourself to others
  • Example of why the Dutchies rock at being themselves

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