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Episode 354 - Civility Rules that Lift, Build, and Inspire with Shelby Scarbrough

Ep. 354

In times of extreme political polarization in society, where the internet is used to spread hate and misinformation at lightspeed around the globe, taking a moment to value and cherish civility is crucial.

This week, Shelby Scarbrough visits us to discuss the importance of practicing civility, instilling the plurality of voices in every political discussion, listening to learn, and learning to listen.

Shelby is a Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Author of "Civility Rules!" a book that invites the reader to learn about the history and essence of civility through the lens of G. Washington's "Rules of Civility." Former U.S. Department of State protocol officer, Shelby was a Presidential Trip Coordinator in President Ronald Reagan's White House Office of Presidential Advance and coordinated several President Reagan appearances, including the 1988 Reagan–Gorbachev Summit, the Statue of Liberty's Centennial Celebration, and a meeting of the NATO Alliance in Brussels.

In this episode, we delve into Shelby's unique view of civility, the oxymoron political civility has become these days, and the role civility plays in turning society more civil. Shelby gave away some golden nuggets from her book, suggested new ways of encouraging constructive discussions, and highlighted the crucial role of promoting the plurality of voices in every political debate.

Tune in to Episode 354 of Becoming Your Best, and learn how to use political differences to transform and unite our society.

Some Questions I Ask:

Please tell us about your background, including any turning points in your life that have significantly impacted you and what you're doing today. (3:25)

Why should society care about what George Washington had to say about civility? (6:57)

What role does personal responsibility play in becoming more civil in our society? (9:31)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

From making hamburgers to the White House. A bit of Shelby's background (3:41)

Listening to learn and learning to listen (11:24)

Never overestimate your importance, and never underestimate your influence (15:51)

How to deal with differences in political views (21:01)

Is the other side of the political aisle always the uncivil one? (26:35)


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Book: Shelby Scarbrough: Civility Rules! Creating A Purposeful Practice Of Civility

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