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Forgiving the Unforgivable

When four children are killed in a horrifying car crash in Sydney, the grieving families discover peace in forgiving the driver just hours afterwards.

Their tonic to deep pain and profound loss raises philosophical questions. What is it to forgive? And, if wronged in the most devastating way are all of us capable of forgiving the unforgivable?

Story by Kimberley Pratt

Edited and produced by Sydney Pead


Featuring Assoc. Prof. Luke Russell, University of Sydney,

With thanks to Leila and Daniel Abdallah, Bridget Sakr and Bob Sakr



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